Is He for Real? Three Ways to Tell if He’s Sincere

Dating can be hard, especially for those who have been hurt in the past. A history of bad relationships can lead to trust issues, insecurity, and hardest of all, uncertainty about your own instincts. He says he’s in love, but is he for real, or just very good at telling women what they want to hear? Fortunately for those struggling with this question, these three actions speak louder than words.

Love is Respect

when a man loves you, he treats you with respect that shows through in all his actions. What do those actions look like? Here are some simple things that show a man respects you:

  • He takes no for an answer. When a man loves a women, he accepts her answer when she says no about anything from going somewhere to sex. There’s no manipulation or attempts to force her to change her mind.
  • He accepts who she is. A man who loves his woman embraces everything about her, good and bad. He doesn’t try to change her, but he does support her efforts to better herself.

Love is Prioritizing

A man who loves a woman prioritizes spending time with her. He doesn’t neglect his friends, family or job of course, but he makes sure the woman in his life takes priority over other social obligations. What does this look like in real life? It depends on the couple, but could look like setting aside two or three nights every week for her. Or it could look coming straight home from work every night, rather than going out for drinks with friends.

Love is Trust

A little harder to define is the action of trust. When a man is truly in love, he trusts his partner, and shows it by not displaying controlling, distrustful behavior. Again, what this looks like depends on the couple, but might include:

  • Being accepting of her male friends
  • Not displaying jealous behaviors
  • Sharing his own deepest hopes and fears

For women who struggle with uncertainty about their own instincts on love, the key is paying attention to what he does, rather than what he says. They say that actions speak louder than words, so if a man is displaying these ones, it’s very likely that he is truly in love with the woman in his life.